Skillr Profile: Carisa Montooth
Carisa Montooth is a Love Coach and Energy Healer sharing her expertise on SKILLR. She spoke with us about how to attract love, why energy work matters, and so much more.
Mariama Hutson:
Such an inviting smile. I really like that.
Carisa Montooth:
Thank you. I was just looking at your... You're gorgeous.
Mariama Hutson:
Thank you.
Carisa Montooth:
I was looking at all the beautiful curves of your face.
Mariama Hutson:
Oh, thank you. I'm trying to [inaudible 00:00:19]
Carisa Montooth:
You're gorgeous.
Mariama Hutson:
No, but thank you for taking the time out to talk with me. I'm Mariama, I handle all of the social media content and influencer stuff at SKILLR, so I really just thought this was something important, to open up these conversations, even though, black history month, we black 365 days a year but-
Carisa Montooth:
People are only thinking about it in February for some reason. Can I just turn my fan on really quick.
Mariama Hutson:
Oh, yeah, of course.
Carisa Montooth:
All right.
Mariama Hutson:
But since we're on the subject, I really did want to highlight the Black Skillrs on our platforms and really open up the conversation for you guys and promote y'all. So, I guess you can start by just telling me what is that you do, how you got started and what your skill is in the app.
Carisa Montooth:
So, I am a love coach and energy healer. And I'm a sixth generation healer so I've been doing that forever, like everyone in my family has, but I guess I'm the first person to do it with a website, it's kind of how I think of it. But my skill on the app is dating, so it's dating relationship expertise. I've had my business for about seven years now. My degrees are in psychology and counseling then my... But like I said, I'm a sixth generation healer so I combine those things so that what I'm actually offering to my clients is the energy healing that they need to be able to heal their heart, so that when they go out there into the dating world, they're not just trying to apply these different dating strategies but actually doing this with wounds from the past that they're bringing forward with them. So, 87% of my clients are in happy, healthy, loving relationships within three to six months of working with me, I'm very proud of that.
Mariama Hutson:
Oh, yes. That's a stat for you. Wow. That's awesome. And I can definitely feel your energy, so that made a lot more sense once you start explaining. What interests you about SKILLR?
Carisa Montooth:
I liked SKILLR because it lets me be able to con concentrate on what I do, which is healing, and which is helping women attract the love that they deserve without having to put as much energy, obviously, because I have my business, I still do have to focus on marketing and reaching new people, but I don't have to do that as much with SKILLR because you guys are already doing that so it's people who need me can connect with me and I can focus on really my zone of genius, which is helping them have what they deserve to have in their love lives.
Mariama Hutson:
I have a question, it's not really... You can just let me know if this is something you would be able to help me with for sure. But, I have this thing where feel I have to choose one or the other, like I got to go after the career, I got to get my career popping, get to my bag, and I can't be focused on these men, I can't, they're distractions, that whole thing, and it's something that deep down inside I know it's not true because there's women who have it all, but it kind of just feels like that and anytime I even, [crosstalk 00:04:04] go on hinge and I'm "Let me start dating." it's "No, I'm too busy, I have this, this and this to do.", but I don't know if that's up your alley of experience.
Carisa Montooth:
Absolutely it is, so, so, so, so, so many of my clients feel like that, that's a really common belief, is that I can have love or money. And a lot of my clients are entrepreneurs that are just launching their businesses, they're women of color who are just launching their businesses, so they're in hustle mode, but they just went to their best friend's birthday party and saw her and her boyfriend altogether, or somebody that they know just met somebody amazing on OkCupid or something like that, or one of their friends from high school is now getting married and doing all that kind of stuff, and then they feel it's like they were in hustle mode and then something made them look up and they were "But how come she gets to have love and love just doesn't [inaudible 00:04:58] So, it's a really common kind of an experience.
Carisa Montooth:
And it's not true, your conscious mind knows that it's not true, but your subconscious mind and your spirit believes that it is, so it feels true. So, that's why energy work matters because that's the domain of energy work, the your subconscious mind, your spirit, because that's 80 to 90% of how you make your choices and how you manifest and create, 80, 90% of that is your subconscious mind. So, if consciously you're going, "I know I can have it all, I know I can have both, I know I can have love and money", but consciously you're "I can't be on... Your subconscious is going, "You better just get that bag and not worry about these men right now, this is more important.", it's going to drive all your choices, and it's going to make it so that every time you start to go that direction, you're going to sabotage yourself or you're going to talk yourself out of it, you're going to go, "Let me get on this dating app and make a little cute profile for myself and pick my cutest pictures and whatever." and then you're going to sabotage yourself, this resistance will come up and you'll be "I can't find any good pictures." or "This is going to take forever." or "There aren't any good people on here anyway." or "I already did this, and if it hasn't happened so far, it's not going to happen for me now."
Carisa Montooth:
So, what we do is we go in and we clear those things so that when you get ready to date, you don't stop yourself, and plus, you actually attract people because of your energy, your energy is different. So, people right now, they can always pick up on what's going on with us subconsciously, they know, they can feel it. And it determines whether they're comfortable with us or not, and it determines whether they really feel we have their best interests at heart, and they can feel our unsettledness, if we are not in a space where we're saying, "I am open to love, I am ready for love". If we're, "I am kind of ready for love, if it's easy for me and doesn't get in the way of work." that's a different energy that we're bringing.
Mariama Hutson:
And it already feels a lot less chaotic, it feels like a effortless energy.
Carisa Montooth:
It is.
Mariama Hutson:
Like you said, attracting versus it's-
Carisa Montooth:
Hustle, hustle, hustle. Because the hustle energy you need in your career is necessary, right?
Mariama Hutson:
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Carisa Montooth:
But that's masculine energy, and we have to be in balance of the masculine and feminine. So, whenever we're in the point of our career where we're striving, we're trying to build something, we're trying to establish who we are, we're trying to get in on the ground floor of something and work our way up, when we're in that energy that's masculine energy, and we need that, but love is a feminine energy, it's a receptive, open energy, it's not an energy of... We don't make love happen, we make it welcome. So it's a little bit of a shift.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. I'm going to have to book a separate session outside-
Carisa Montooth:
I would love to have a session with you.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah, we're going to make that happen.
Carisa Montooth:
Absolutely.
Mariama Hutson:
Back to what we were here for.
Carisa Montooth:
We were here for this, this is the important stuff.
Mariama Hutson:
This is what we're here for.
Carisa Montooth:
This is what we're here for.
Mariama Hutson:
I just wanted to ask you, we talked about, we're black 365, but since it is black history month, how are you celebrating this month?
Carisa Montooth:
Well, I'm celebrating in a lot of different ways. My daughter is biracial. My husband is white, my daughter's biracial, and it's really wonderful for me to get to be the person who gets to be "This is what it means to be black sweetheart.", I can't do that with her. And talk to her about, not just the resilience of black women, but also we get to be taken care of too, we get to have fun too, we get to be lighthearted too, we deserve luxury, we deserve care, we deserve love. So, it's not just about being strong and resilient and holding up everything on our shoulders. Yes, we've heard that and we are tired of that, and that is not the entirety of who we are.
Mariama Hutson:
They're beating it down.
Carisa Montooth:
We're not just here to make sure that everybody else's lives run smoothly and hold everybody down, that's not our whole job, we also deserve to be taking care of, and to be cherished, and to have attention, and be told how beautiful we are, and to be just loved on. So, with my daughter, I talk to her about... Every time we recognize... We have a thing in our family where whenever she does something that's really hard, or whenever she's about to do something, that's really hard, I'll be "Do you know how you can do that?", and she'll say, "I can do that because I'm a black woman in America." and I'm "That's right." So, anytime there's something hard, so it's "You know why you can do this? You know why you're going to be successful at this? Because you're a black woman in America. That's how you can do this. We know you can do this." So, we talk about all the time.
Mariama Hutson:
How old is she?
Carisa Montooth:
She's 10. And she's asked a lot of questions over these last few years about racism and about... Not only racism, but noticing where racism and sexism overlap. She's noticed some of those things, and she's noticed that expectations are different for women than they are for men, because she sees that at school. We were having this conversation this morning where this boy told her she was cute yesterday, they were doing something at a table and he was "You're cute." she was "Thanks." So, she told me about it today and she was "Mommy so-so told me I was cute." and I was "That's really cool." And I said, "You remember in second grade he used to be kind of mean to you, and your teacher said it was because he was just trying to get your attention because he liked you. What do you think about that?" and she was "Well, sometimes I think that's just how boys are." and I said "Maybe some boys are like that, but is that the standard that we're expecting to hold them to, that they can act crazy toward us to show us that they like us? Is that an okay thing for them to do? [crosstalk 00:13:44].
Mariama Hutson:
We need to kill that too.
Carisa Montooth:
Yes, there's not the boys will be boys thing, we're not doing that anymore. No, that's... It's not like we excuse that kind of bad behavior because we say, "Well, boys will be boys.", no. So, I'm teaching her that how you allow yourself to be treated is important and that you can remove yourself from situations where people don't know how to value you, and you don't have accept that that's just somebody's behavior because boys will be boys or because whatever. So, we talk a lot about what being black means to her, what that part of her identity means to her. We read a lot of books that are by black authors and that show beautiful black children in them, and we watch a lot of TV shows together where she can see girls that look like her. And it's really different than when I was growing, it took a while to just get our makeup together, to where it didn't... Like all weird and gray, it was like... It took a while for major lines like Maybelline or whatever to be "Oh right, there's other skin tones."
Mariama Hutson:
It's only been recently really.
Carisa Montooth:
It's very recent. We used to just have fashion fair, and I was "That's old." but still, that's what there was. And for my daughter to be able to just be in this different world where there's much more representation and it's just more normal for her. And then to also talk about things that she might not have known about in our family, like I've researched... I'm the person... In every family, in each generation of every family there's that one who knows the whole history and then this person is like the genealogist for the family-
Mariama Hutson:
The historian?
Carisa Montooth:
Yeah. I'm like the family historian. So, I actually went to the place on the underground railroad in Ohio that my great, great, great, great, great grandmother came through with her twin daughters, and it's in Ripley, Ohio. And there's this cabin there called Rankin house, and it's up on the top up of this hill, and if you look down from there, you can see the Ohio river and on the other side is Kentucky. And in Kentucky, that's where my enslaved family members were. So, this particular grandma, her name was grandma Freeman, she waited, like many enslaved people did at the time, for of the river to freeze so she could cross it in the dead of winter, but she's crossing it in the dead of winter with her two twin daughters who were three. I actually went out there and took pictures of everything, and talked to the people out there, and took my grandma out there, because she grew up in Ohio. And she heard those stories from the relatives who knew those relatives, which is amazing to me, because it's, we're far away from it but we're not that far away from it.
Mariama Hutson:
Not that far at all.
Carisa Montooth:
We're not that far away from it. And so, to be able to go there and to also show those things to my daughter, put those things in context and be "When I was here, when I came to this to Rankin house, I drove a rented PT cruiser here on a paved street with air conditioning, when my great, great, great, great, great grandma was trying to come here, she was crossing a frozen river in the middle of the winter with her two twin daughters terrified that she was going to be caught and returned and punished. So, I talk to my daughter about those kinds of things and give her some balance and some perspective, because I want her to know that she's strong, I want her to know that she's resilient, I want her to know that she comes from survivors, but I also want her to know that she is what they dreamed of, she gets to thrive now. It's not her job to just survive, we get to thrive now, that's why we're all here now. So, that's a lot of what that is. It's funny because you start-
Mariama Hutson:
Is that your-
Carisa Montooth:
What?
Mariama Hutson:
Sorry. I was just going to say, is that your only child?
Carisa Montooth:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah.
Mariama Hutson:
I think that's just very beautiful. I think the way that you are raising her outside of just knowing her history and the things that you talk about, but just those basic things like respect and setting boundaries and even her feeling comfortable enough to come to you and be "Yeah, this is what happened at school. This boy said this.", I feel that's really important and that's something that I would want to embody when I have children of my own because I... This might turn into a whole therapy... But I feel I-
Carisa Montooth:
Let's do it.
Mariama Hutson:
Didn't really have that type of relationship with my mother. I feel it was very business and very "You have to be strong and very... ", like you only got the masculine energy side. After being older and talking to her, and I totally understand her life and kind of where she came from and why she felt the need to raise her daughters, "You got to be strong. This is... ", the things that you need to do and not really tapping into that feminine energy, but I feel I would never come to my mom and tell her that, it would turn into "Why are you talking to boys?" and all of these stuff. It's-
Carisa Montooth:
"You're being fast." and all this kind of stuff and... Yeah, I know.
Mariama Hutson:
Yes. I don't know, because I feel I'm going to be the type of person that's going to be reading 17 books about parenting, I'm going to have stacks and stacks and stacks, but is your way of being, kind of, just experience and energy and, kind of, what you wanted your relationship with your daughter to look like, or you think there's specific things that you read or heard that, kind of, gave you a pathway to kind of how you wanted that relationship to be?
Carisa Montooth:
I'm sure it's a little bit of both. There were times my mom was a single mom and there were definitely times that she was really heavy into the masculine energy, but she also was in her feminine quite a bit, she was very physically affectionate with us, very hugging us, very [unintelligible 00:20:54] that kind of stuff with us, which I am with my daughter very much, and she is still, as a grandmother with all her grandkids. So, there was kind of a balance of those things. I could see that things are hard for my mom, and she definitely was in her masculine energy often, she would have to be, but I knew that for me... The biggest thing for me was I really wanted my daughter... I had a similar experience with my mom as you did growing up, in that there were things I never would've wanted to talk to her about because I would've been "She's going to be worried." or she's going to say something like... She's going to be afraid of something bad happening, and she's going to say something to me that's not going to... It's going to be "Why are you trying to blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." and it's kind of "I'm just trying to tell you what's happening that's important to me.
Carisa Montooth:
So, for me, the thing has always been that I've always, with my daughter, told her, "I will always tell you the truth, even if it's something that might be hard, and I will always be here for you, and you can always talk to me. And even if it's something... I might get upset about the situation, but I won't be mad at you and I will always want to help you." And even if she's talking about nothing, because often she's "Minecrafts this, and blah, blah, blah." and I'm "Uh-huh (affirmative)." I'm just thinking to myself, "She's sharing her inner world with me, and as long as she's going to do that, as long as she wants to do that, I want her to do that." So, I'm here for that, I want to be here for that.
Carisa Montooth:
I remember when she was four or five, she came to me one time and she goes, "Mommy, I want to tell you something, but I don't want you to be mad." and I was "Okay, what is it?", and she goes, "I love you more than I love daddy." and she was torn up about it but I'm not supposed to, I'm supposed to love everybody the same and I was "Well, we just won't say anything to daddy about that because we don't want to hurt his feelings." and she goes, "I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings, I just want to tell you the truth that's in my heart." and I was just "Oh my God." beautiful moment. I just hugged her and I was just "It's okay, you can always tell me anything, I'm not going to be upset with you, and it's fine that you feel like that." It's okay.
Carisa Montooth:
So, it's like thing that she's ever said to me, even if she was afraid to tell me, I've just been like, "Okay, I'm just going to take a deep breath." or even stuff that she's asked before, she's asked me about sex. She's asked me what prostitutes are, there was something she saw or a song she heard, and they said a car was pimped out, she was "What does pimped out mean?" so then I had to explain what pimps were, so I had to explain what prostitutes were, so this whole conversation where it was starting from, "What does a pimped out car mean?" and I'm "Oh wow." So, "You ready to talk about this right now?" But it's... I don't shy away from those conversations with her, and I just talk to her about it as much as she's willing to talk about it at whatever her level is. And I always know that it's been a good conversation when she's "Okay, I'm going to have a snack." and I'm "Okay, cool.", she's "I got as much information as I needed, I'm good now."
Mariama Hutson:
That's funny.
Carisa Montooth:
So, yeah, my style of parenting, I guess, and just having that closesness with my daughter, that's always been the most important thing. I remember hearing somebody... There was a quote where this man was talking about his mother and he said that he always knew that his mother loved him because no matter what she was doing, if he came to talk to her, she would lock in with him, she would pause what she was doing and lock in with him. So, that was always an important thing to me, I wanted my daughter to always know whatever is going on, that her inner world matters to me.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. That's beautiful. I love that.
Carisa Montooth:
Thank you. And I'm sure you'll be a great mom because the thing about it is those of us who are "I want to make sure that I do this right. I want to make sure that I'm a good parent. If there are any books out there that I can read, please let me know.", all those kinds of things, we're the ones who really don't actually have to worry about it. The ones that are "Oh, it's easy. It doesn't matter. What's everybody freaking out about?" are usually the ones that actually... They need to be digging in a little bit more, a little bit.
Mariama Hutson:
Okay. Well I have faith then.
Carisa Montooth:
Yeah. You'll be good.
Mariama Hutson:
Well, yeah, I don't know what you were going to say before that, we kind of got into a different discussion, but I really like the flow of things, honestly.
Carisa Montooth:
Me too.
Mariama Hutson:
Hoe we are going.
Carisa Montooth:
I think we were talking about whatever needs to come up.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. Another question that I had, this month, the theme of the black history month is black health and wellness, what comes to mind for you when you think of that?
Carisa Montooth:
I think of mental health, because I think of... Especially over the last few years, there's been so much trauma for us because of watching what is happening to black people in this country on a large... Literally watching what is happening to black people in this country. You go on Instagram and you see all of the microaggressions, you see there's footage of actual murders that we see where people like us are being killed, and that is traumatic. And for us to be expected to just kind of absorb that and just go, "Yeah, I guess that happens in this country. I got to go to work or whatever." is kind of not... It's unreal that that's the expectation. And even for people with different levels of sensitivity, because some people are even more susceptive to that based on whether you're an HSP, a highly sensitive person, or whatever your level of sensitivity is, that's traumatic to see that.
Carisa Montooth:
And so for us, dealing with that on top of dealing with the racism we already experience every day, and then for women the other layer of sexism on top of that, mental health has to be... When I think of wellness for black women, because you said black people and I think black people but I always go black women, I'm "First let's think about us." because we're the only one thinking about us most of the time.
Mariama Hutson:
That's true.
Carisa Montooth:
Let's think about us. What do we need? What I feel we need the most is mental health support, because so often we're coping with so much trauma and we're coping with so much anxiety and there's a different expectation on us than there is on most other people, so people look at us, they expect us to be strong and resilient. If we get angry, and even if it's righteous anger, we feel we're not even allowed to express that because now we're the angry black woman, and we're being belligerent and unreasonable and all that kind of stuff. So, there's this particular box that we are in, we're always treading this really fine line, and we are expected to give help but not ever ask for help, and that's really... You can't sustain any kind of good mental health with that. We always are the last on our list of things, and we have to be able to have rest. We have to be able to have space where no one is expecting anything from us and we're allowed to just give to ourselves. We're allowed to sleep as long as we need to sleep.
Mariama Hutson:
And just recently I was reading about... I was reading an article, and it was actually a historical... It was an excerpt from a newspaper from, I think it was the '20s or '30s and essentially what it was describing was that when black married couples... So there were black married couples [inaudible 00:30:07] and when the men who were service members had a pension, it was enough to take care of the household financially so their wives didn't have to work. And it was in a particular... I think it was in the Midwest, the situation's happening in Midwest. So, here are all of these service members and they're making a pension, their wives aren't having to work, but the white women who were in that part of the country and that particular city and in that surrounding county and everything, they then did not have black laborers in their homes, they didn't have seamstreses, they didn't have cooks, they didn't have maids.
Mariama Hutson:
So, they went to their city council and made it illegal for black women to be unemployed so that they were fined an amount that was bigger than what their husbands were making from the puncheons. So, if they didn't get jobs, they would lose the pension and have to go get jobs. And that was so that the white women in that area wouldn't have to work. It was "How dare you expect to not work?" It was we were actually legally and financially penalized for not working even though we had the financial wherewithal not to have to work. It literally made it illegal for us to have rest and take care of our own families and our own children. I'll send you the link to the article because it was amazing.
Mariama Hutson:
And if you think about how that happened all across the country for decades and decades and decades, you can get a little understanding of why it's so hard for us now as black women to really believe we deserve rest and be allowed to rest and have the spaces in our lives for rest. There's a book that's called Black Girls Must Die Exhausted, and it's a novel. It's a novel about a woman who is trying to do everything perfect in her life, she's trying to do everything perfect and everything right, and then she finds out that, there's something she really wanted for herself, she's not going to get to have. And I won't tell the whole thing, but it's based on a saying of her grandmothers' where her grandmother said to her "Black girls have to die exhausted because that's what this world expects of us." It expects to take everything out of us, and for us to give every bit of usefulness to the rest of the world and not have any rest for ourselves, not have any relief for ourselves, not be able to have luxury and ease for ourselves. There is a sentiment of resentment when people see a black woman resting.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. And you can see that all the time, even seeing black women enjoy luxury, there's so many hate comments, it's why don't black women deserve luxury? It just-
Carisa Montooth:
Black women deserve everything good.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. And I can really relate to what you said, because sometimes I... I have this job that I just started. I do photography, I do a bunch of other things on the side, I'm always "Go, go, go. Hustle, hustle, hustle." and even when I get a moment to rest, I still feel I shouldn't be resting this long.
Carisa Montooth:
Yeah. You feel you can't really have it. You feel you can't have it because you don't deserve it, because "Shouldn't I be doing something else right now?"
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah. And what you said about ease as well, I feel there's this conditioning that is hard to... "You got to work really hard to get everything." and I feel that goes hand to hand even with the universe, the source of all things, having that type of relation where you got to work hard, hard, hard, hard, hard versus the mindset of ease and things just coming to you. I can definitely relate to that part.
Carisa Montooth:
Well it even sometimes feels... A big part of what I do has to do with manifesting, whatever name you want to call that by, but just the idea that you're going to create a certain vibration within yourself and it's going to attract those things into your material existence, your objective reality. There is this idea in some cases, we have to be "Oh, I want this and I want this, and I want... ", we have to just send out this intense brainery about it, and kind of we can't be "This thing is coming to me." That seems like something that happens really easily for... And I don't know why it seems like this to us, or "That's something that happens for white women, right?", that's not something that happens... That's like the love and light crowd, that happens for them. The ones that are " We're just send love and light." [crosstalk 00:35:35] it's like [unintelligible 00:35:42].
Carisa Montooth:
There are issues with racism even in those communities, even in new thought and new age communities, because women will say... This became a big issue in those communities about three years ago because there were groups of women who would either... There would either be cultural appropriation issues where it was "We're taking these practices from African spirituality or from indigenous cultures and we're repackaging them in a way that's really comfortable and easy for white women to absorb. And we're going to charge five times as much for them but not give any credit to these indigenous communities or to these communities of color.", that was an issue, always been an issue, still will be an issue.
Carisa Montooth:
And then the other thing was, it was this whitewashing of the idea of manifestation and things like that. So, it was if you are experiencing racism as a person of color, it's because you are just focusing so much on racism that you're drawing it into your reality. So many of us were just "We're going to have to call bullshit on that." because what actually we need to do here is, as a community, you need to recognize that it's a reality and then you need to be an ally, is what needs to actually happen. Because black people didn't create and it's not black people's responsibility to dismantle it, especially because we don't benefit from it. So it's if you benefit from it, it's your job to contribute to dismantling it, that you benefit from it and you know it's unfair. So, that was happening a lot in the spiritual communities too.
Carisa Montooth:
So, when you talk about the idea of the universe, it feels like it's hard to get at things... Coming from the universe, sometimes it does feel like that. Even in those spiritual communities, it feels like... And a lot of that is just because of the way people present it, but it's... One of the things that I found that's really interesting because the majority of my clients are black women, and when we get into the deep, energetic work, we clear out things that are generations old, and there'll be things like... Some beliefs that I find really often are things like, "Black women aren't allowed to have money.", so we'll clear those beliefs out. Or there'll be a belief that's "Black women aren't allowed to earn more than white women.", so we'll clear those kinds of beliefs out. And when we clear those beliefs out, you get the feeling that... When we do work that has to do with love, you don't think we're going to do anything that has to do with money, it's, we're going to focus on love. But what we are actually focusing on is anything that gets in the way of you believing you deserve every good thing in the world, anything that interferes with your ability to receive your good on any level.
Carisa Montooth:
So, often what I find with women that I work with is they actually end up seeing changes in their career, like promotions and new jobs and raises and stuff like that, that they didn't really request before they see the changes in their love life. And the reason for that is because we believe... We have laws for ourselves, like if you believe a thing long enough, it becomes a law for you, and you don't even have to question it or make affirmations about it anymore, it's "This is the thing that always works for me." So, we have a law that says, "Well, I'm allowed to at least make a decent enough living that I'm not starving on the streets. I'm allowed to at least make money to not be homeless." We don't argue with that in our mind, we're "Yes, that is true." But when we think of love, we're "Love is something special that happens when all the stars align in the perfect way and the universe smiles on us, and when... ", you know what I mean?
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah.
Carisa Montooth:
So, it seems like this magical thing. So, it' like... That's not a law for us. It's not a law for us, it's "We deserve love.", we have to make that a law by healing the things that are in the way. So, once we open up all of these stuff to receiving, since we already have this law that's "Well, I deserve money." it's like we activate that, and then people are "Oh my God, I got this job" or "I got this whatever. I got this raise." And then it's like later is when they are open to love. So, it's a really amazing thing. Do you have other stuff going on? Do we need to-
Carisa Montooth:
Awesome. Thank you so much. It's so good to you. I feel if I was there, I would be giving you a really big hug right now and just be "You look so good to me too."
Mariama Hutson:
That transfers with energy.
Carisa Montooth:
Cool. We'll have a great rest of your day.
Mariama Hutson:
Yeah, you as well. All right. Bye.
Carisa Montooth:
Okay. Bye.
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